A Primer on Pedophiles

People worldwide have now watched the HBO documentary “Leaving Neverland” featuring two men who said, as children, they were repeatedly sexually abused by Michael Jackson.  The documentary delved into how such abuse can occur, a predator’s methods and the lifelong damage it can do to a child victim.  I’m not convinced most Americans truly understand how a pedophile operates.

There is still this perception that these sexual crimes are suddenly forced upon the child, that violence, restraints and bloodshed are the norm. Nothing could be further from the truth.

At the crux of pedophilia is the technique child hunters use to gain access to their prey. It is called “grooming” and it is cleverly applied to both adults and children.

First, realize that a pedophile is the most charming, personable and cunning criminal on the planet. They woo and seduce. They present as grooming target is almost always the parent. They know they must seduce the parent into thinking the best about them before getting clear access to the child.

Pedophiles are the Most Personable Yet Cunning Criminals on Earth

This seduction doesn’t happen overnight. It might take weeks or months and that is part of the allure for a child predator. The hunt is often just as stimulating to a pedophile as an actual sex act.

“He told me it was love…and God brought us together,” one of Jackson’s accusers, Wade Robson, said to Oprah Winfrey during a one-hour special that followed the HBO documentary.  Robson said he was just seven when the molestation began.

“I had no understanding that what Michael did to me sexually was abuse… I had no concept of it being that,” Robson said.

Oprah, herself a survivor of childhood sex crimes, explained that impressionable children simply don’t have the language to explain all their complicated feelings. When asked if something bad happened to them it is easy for the child to deny it because the hugging, kissing and rubbing actually felt good to them.

Robson and a second man, James Safechuck, both said they were so brainwashed to keep the sex secret and beguiled by Jackson’s fame that it wasn’t until they married and had their own sons that they began to realize what had actually happened.  Both described later-in-life nervous breakdowns that led them to seek therapy to heal from their trauma.

(Attorneys for Jackson’s estate filed a $100 million lawsuit against HBO and condemned the documentary calling it one-sided propaganda designed to “shamelessly exploit an innocent man who is no longer here to defend himself.”)

The public should also understand that pedophiles follow a typical script when discovered. They distract the conversation by personally attacking the child’s character or that of the family. They may point the finger at what they claim is an overly needy child with an inattentive parent, they may tell police the family is out to extort money from them, or the suspect may accuse the child of being the aggressor who brought porn or alcohol into the relationship.  They, in effect, ask police, “Who you gonna believe? Me, the grown up or the troubled kid from the broken home?”  It’s an age-old molester’s tactic.

Jackson’s Neverland Ranch Featured a Zoo and Rides

Retired FBI Special Agent Ken Lanning wrote the bureau’s bible on pedophilia called, Child Molesters: A Behavioral Analysis. He once told me pedophiles have an uncanny ability to identify with and listen to children. They surround themselves with things that will attract children. Think of the amusement park at Neverland or the big screen TV playroom in Jerry Sandusky’s basement near Penn State.  Lanning also notes that molesters believe their loving actions toward children are natural.  “Many pedophiles refuse to recognize that what they do is even wrong,” Lanning said.  They truly believe the “love” they are showing the child is a good thing.

I’m hoping that these recent child survivor’s stories have educated people as to why victims keep their humiliating secret for so long; how the person next door can be both a wonderful neighbor and a child predator and how a victim’s lifetime of torment can be soothed by simply looking them in the eye and saying, “I believe you.”



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  2. Diane Dimond on March 12, 2019 at 2:49 pm

    Reader Kyla Thompson writes:

    So many men in our state have described exactly this when they were abused by priests. Chilling. Believe the children.

  3. Diane Dimond on March 12, 2019 at 2:52 pm

    Reader Eddie Emmons writes:

    Typical of most to not want to understand…..it’s often impossible for them to comprehend…….meanwhile the perps are hiding in plain sight…….

  4. Diane Dimond on March 12, 2019 at 2:52 pm

    Reader Nancy Spieker Robel writes:

    Keep it coming, Diane. We need to protect our children from these predators!

  5. Diane Dimond on March 12, 2019 at 2:53 pm

    Reader Evina Zboronova writes:

    As Michael Jackson’s drummer of over 30 years and friend, here is my personal statement in light of the new documentary, “Leaving Neverland” and the allegations against him:
    Like that old saying goes: “When at first you don’t succeed…try, try, and TRY again!!” Well, that is what seems to be the motto and the premise for these two guys who keep ON trying to get atMichael through his money.And continue to humiliate and embarrass him with all their own admittedly false accusations evidenced through their admissions they testified and verified of Michael’s innocence time and time again throughout the years since these allegations first came up and about!!!How can they keep being allowed to defame a person who was already cleared on ”14 SEPARATE charges” and accusations in a major public court trial appearance in front of the whole entire world?Why is it allowed again and again…when Michael was proved innocent already?With the same people revamping and reshuffling their decks to try a rehashed version of their same old allegations and accusations in a different light and point of view just to see if THAT WAY works?!Trying to baffle, befuddle, and fool all of the people and public who’ve already seen and heard all the testimonies on both sides (which proved Michael’s innocence in all charges against him!!).When even ONLY “ONE” of the charges could have put him behind bars for a very long time…Yet none did…none could…and none would!Yet even after all of that in that long drawn out trial…
    Now, it should be criminal in what they are doing to him!In truly stalking his life, his memory, and legacy over and over and over again…doing this to him!He, who is supposed to be at peace now, at rest now…past and beyond the foils of all this malicious persecution of prosecution people keep throwing at him.Now even in his absence from this world and from Earth, when at rest in his grave, how can this still be allowed?!With the same old unproven evidence as before, only revamped!?How can the judicial system keep allowing for money-hungry seeking people like these to keep on using the system for their own selfish trumped up means?Where is the justice for the “PROVEN INNOCENT”?And why are these once former defenders of Michael and his innocence and integrity allowed to misuse the courts and the court system like this?Giving them a vile voice once again, and again, and again?!It’s a waste of time for the already crowded courts and court system.With bigger and important cases to try than to keep retrying the one these particular plaintiffs themselves already proved of Michael’s innocence!Stop the madness!For when even the FBI themselves after decades of investigation and files gathering on him, unbeknownst by him, came to the conclusion that he was INNOCENT of anything of the likes he’d been accused of!!
    I LOVE all my “Brothers J” and the Jackson Family!Especially Mother, who to me is like MY Mother in my heart!To keep putting her through all this is just cruel and heartless!So please leave my “brother” in heart, spirit, and soul, Michael Jackson, alone!He has escaped this world of trials, tribulations, torment and persecution.PLEASE LET HIM REST IN HOLY PEACE……Jonathan Moffett

    • Diane Dimond on March 12, 2019 at 2:53 pm

      Reader Irene Smith responds to Evina Zboronova:

      That’s your opinion. Just because someone lawyers up doesn’t mean nothing happened? Did you watch both parts of the documentary? This is bigger story then Michael Jackson this is what sexual seduction its affects, the aftermath. The general public is not as fooled by the cult of celebrity anymore. Sexual seduction and molestation has infected our churches, schools, homes etc

  6. Diane Dimond on March 12, 2019 at 2:54 pm

    Reader Mira Milivojevic submits these papers for those seeking more information:


    US NCMEC Child Molesters a Behavioral Analysis Lanning 2010
    US NCMEC Child Molesters a Behavioral Analysis Lanning 2010
    US NCMEC Child Molesters a Behavioral Analysis Lanning 2010


    Background on Child Sexual Victimization
    Background on Child Sexual Victimization
    Background on Child Sexual Victimization


    Profile and Common Characteristics of a Pedophile
    Profile and Common Characteristics of a Pedophile
    Profile and Common Characteristics of a Pedophile

  7. Diane Dimond on March 12, 2019 at 2:54 pm

    Reader Carolyn O’Connor writes:

    I am reading Paul Anka’s book and he worked with Michael. Now Paul had all girls and he wanted to spend time with them.
    Same think with Donald Trump. Now Trump’s kids were never allowed alone with his kids. Donald only goes so far as to say MJ was a great entertainer and friend.
    Seems like the families that can be bought were the victims.
    Please keep going with this.
    All I hear from people who know MJ was how lonely he was.
    Why is that when so many people were around him?

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